> At 03:51 PM 10/8/97 -0400, Reed Konsler wrote:
> >No offense, but that's not a reason for fidelity. It's a prediction of the
> >outcome of a hypothetical situation. It isn't even accurate, since there
>
> That's right, and it *is* a reason for fidelity *if* you don't want
> to hurt your SO and lose their trust (and the conditional is true).
> That is *all* I am saying!
Not so fast, David. The reason /I/ stay true to my love is that it /feel/
wrong or bad when I don't. My brain stops producing the domamines (sp?)
and endorphins that had become linked to that persons presence. Now you
can *justify* that after the fact using logic, but it is not the
motivation at the time. No logic is involved. It is closer to addiction
an craving than reason. I *need* her. I need a fix of her smile or the
smell of her hair or the softness of her touch. And it hurts to give that
up. It is pain avoidance more than logic. For me at least. (But I
willing spend less time in rational thought than you do, as well--I write
better poetry that way.)
-Prof. Tim