What, exactly, do you mean by "can't stand"? How much money would someone
have to pay you to cheat on your wife? Is it rational that that number be
beyond
calculation? How happy would she be if you said: "honey, I couldn't stand to
do this to you...unless someone offered me a million dollars."? I suspect that
love for one's spouse is almost always in the "faith" region of your T-grid (as
well it should be). One does not love another rationally or only so much as
evidence supports, right? "I love you more than your brother because, since
you have the same color of hair and eyes as me, I am more confident that you
are my genetic offspring." Ok, that's perhaps a little too extreme...but what
counts as "evidence" to support love?
Reed
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Reed Konsler konsler@ascat.harvard.edu
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